7 Conflict-Free Personal and Professional Goals You Can Take to the Bank
When I was a kid, mom taught me so much.
When I was struggling with second-grade math, she was there. My class was learning to count by 25’s and it hadn’t yet made sense to me. I’d been a good learner and good at math, so I was frustrated and nearly in tears that it wasn’t coming to me.
Mom knew how to do that math.
She was patient enough to sit with me, guide me and encourage me so I could do it too. That experience taught me math and more.
Mom taught me the power of persistence
(even when it felt impossible)
And while that persistence kept me in the game at work, I didn’t have a guide, a rubric, a mentor on the must-know steps to be promoted.
So I did what appeared available…
- joined the management club
- started playing golf with management club colleagues
- sought out a mentor
Good things, but as I was on foreign soil, so to speak, I didn’t know the point. Other than getting to know people, there seemed no point to be had…
- the management club was boring & appeared pointless*
- I was good at golf, but it’s slow and I didn’t get the point (Pssst, another place to find a mentor)
- sought out a mentor
Looking back, there was a BIG point. It was a place to meet managers, get to know them, find a mentor and learn the ropes.
But I left for the thrill sports I loved doing. I did my work at work. Played like there’d never be another river to paddle or cave to explore, and a year later found my self …
so BORED at work, I was hated the thought of it…
It took me two more years to get out of the slump, interview all over the country and get a job in Dallas.
DON’T LET THE LACK OF
** MINDSET + STRATEGY + TACTICS **
PUT YOU WERE I WAS THEN
It nearly cost me my future.
And it doesn’t have to be that way, especially when you’re in the know.
I’ll tell you a little not-really-a-secret but can seem like one…
For centuries men have run the business world, depending upon their wives and daughters to make them look good, clean their clothes and feed them — so they could.
Ever the storytellers, men shared their “how to succeed in business” know-how to their sons, just by being a dad.
But almost always, dads had – and still do have – very different conversations with their daughters, nieces and granddaughters, for whom their concern is typically focused on protecting them from predators, scoundrels and worse.
Dad’s want their daughters, nieces, granddaughters to be SAFE.
That’s good. But those conversations come up short when what you really need is …
… the know-how to be a power “player” at work …
Bonus benefits? Being a power player automatically conveys the kind of power, status and likability required for safety.
Subconsciously, the dads we grew up with were simply doing what their dads had done. After all, what seems ‘natural’ is ingrained. Rarely is it a conscious thing.
- Are you stuck in your position at work?
- Do you yearn for a change, but not clear what it would be?
- Does your foreseeable future include something that calls for a change?
So what to do?
7 Personal and Professional Goals You Can Take to the Bank
- Know the game being played (it may not be what you think..)
- Trusted relationships, fit & ability to lead and motivate others so they get the work done.
- Play it, know who does it best where you are, master what they do
- Find a mentor, so you can be more and more effective
- Build your bank of allies & reliable teammates
- Allies at your current level & especially, those above
- Make fast, high-quality decisions, especially when faced with ambiguity
- Learn from the most effective: Informational interview one, two & three levels up
- Get the best results possible & move to the next thing.
- Make sure you’re clear on the results needed, including whom you make look good along the way
- Run a short post mortem reflection on everything you try, you’ll be improving when others stand still
- This is your engine to improve your part of the organization and influence others
- CELEBRATE EVERY WIN!
- Especially the small ones … they compound, every one of them🌟
An example from my alma mater…
Dr Weiss knew how to do all these and more. While academia is notoriously competitive, the rise from Professor to Department Chair is a tough one. You have to tame and play the politics, get along with a whole slew of quirky humans of the administration, faculty and student varieties, and keep on top of your research.
That’s a lot of spinning plates.
He pulled it off. The machine in the back is a super-cooled matter-antimatter annihilator that he and my colleague Rene’ Holaday built. A study in the finer points of the universe, and a whole lotta fancy mathematics.