How to Get Promoted at Work, without the Work-Family Conflict Part
Doing, doing, dooooo-ing! I grew up thinking it was all about the work.
And while the work you do — your production, its quality and timeliness — is important, promotions are about more than work. They’re about a good fit — which is why internal promotions are so valuable to a company or organization.
When leaders know you, they’re weighing your …
- Leadership mindset
- Quality of the relationships you have
- Ability to see future opportunities
- Ability to see risks to avoid
- … and of course, the quality and timeliness of your work
When you make these visible and hearable, you’re showing up as a leader.
Congrats! It’s half the battle 😉
Your bonus asset? You’re a known quantity and you know your company’s culture, which beats the crapshoot of a new hire every day of the week✅ … & why it’s called the inside track.
And you may be wondering, wishing, wanting to know “how can I do all that and be there for my family too?”
And yet, that Work-Family Conflict thing? So often it’s a HUGE concern …
… and it doesn’t have to be.
Especially when they’re young, you want to be there for your kids. The dedicated one-on-one time. The gazing lovingly into their eyes part. The holding close and enjoying first steps and more … it’s super important and being a mom is often why we have children — to love them, play with them, kiss their boo-boos, read and sing to them, and allllll the things little ones need.
Here are three super simple tips to free up time so you can enjoy your sacred family time. Did you know that ‘sacred’ means “dedicated or set apart”? (Definitely a stumbled-into-learning-it thing for me.)
Tip #1 – Get the Conflict out of Food Prep!
Food is central to family, life, health and culture. And while we love feeding our friends and loved ones, when time is short … we want options!
- Family-cooking day option (super for kiddos four and up): Set aside a half-day to prep, cook, jar, freeze or can … a week’s worth of the nutritious, flavorful food your family loves — and make it FUN! Sing songs, tell stories, share hugs and have a good time knowing you and your family will enjoy this food twice … while cooking it with your kiddos AND eating together in the week ahead.
- When to shop? Is Saturday the day before your cook-fest? Shop on whatever day stands in for your “Saturday.” You can shop with one kiddo at a time, or with the whole crew — and educate them on how to choose nutritious foods and stay on budget.
- When to cook? Sunday or whatever day stands in for your “Sunday.” This is your best opportunity to have fun and, bit-by-bit, teach your kiddos what balanced meals are, why they’re important, and what good nutrition does for their bodies and their lives! Plus, the staying on budget part — all while having fun together.
- Hire a cook (especially helpful when your kiddos are too young to help cook): So you are playing, reading to or otherwise having precious moments with your young kiddos … and all you have to do is have the ingredients in the house (unless you opt for the cook do your weekly shopping). This way YOU are having dedicated time with your sweet kiddos & spouse, worry-free, while a good cook is doing the cooking (and cleaning up, too!).
If you’re cool with leftovers, your cook can prepare a double-batch to store in the frig or freezer for dinner another night … Voila! (And this can both cut your costs and free the cook to cook for another family, maybe even a friend.
Tip #2 – Avoiding long hours (mostly)
- How to get your life back on track …
- First principles: Your time is YOURS. Control it, or suffer – there are no other options.
- Make expectation-setting your superpower early
- Make expectation-setting your superpower – here’s how
- It’s a position you’ve wanted, the interview is wrapping up. You’re both clear on the scope of and your fit for the position, your big raise in salary, signed any papers and shaken hands*.
- You stand up and step toward the door and …
- … stop!
- Turn to your new boss and say … “by the way, no matter what, I leave at 4:00p (or whatever time you need to get ahead of traffic) to get my kiddo(s), but not to worry, I’m back online after they’re fed and asleep, to finish the day – productively.”
Congrats, you’ve just secured Quality Family Time,
Gotten ahead of the traffic,
and kicked a huge chunk of stress OUT of your life.
- Keep (or start!) your de-stress protocol … for me it’s walking a mile or more at least once a day (and since I’d turned 35, rotating through a simple strength training combo Look.
- Walking, pushing a stroller
- ssd … ccc
- ssd … ccc https://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/how-can-i-improve-my-focus.html
*Know your boss’ fav sports teams (or shows or celebs)?!? << this critical factor in boss-relations is too often overlooked. Miss it at your peril! More on this on .. u know your new boss’ favorite sports teams << critical!
to do all this and As an inside-tracker, you’re pre-positioned to be promoted to manager and beyond. Congrats!
Let’s see the breakdown on what it takes so you can make this happen…
Read on and discover how simple (and enjoyable) it can be to…
- Have a great relationship with your boss
- Get your work done early
- Lead others on work that makes your boss and you shine
- Bring along deserving colleagues — your judgment is an asset
- Let your boss know the kind of positions that interest you
- When one comes open or is about to, remind your boss why you’re the great fit
A good fit with the people ‘above’
a mystical Christian kid, running around the woods with my little brothers and the neighbor kids, so fascinated with how cool God* made the world, I had to learn all about it. Studied science and math (thanks to mom & dad). It’s the best friend of us — keeps us out of the abyss of wild speculation.
* feel free to substitute suitable to your beliefs
First in my family to get past high school, I graduated university in Physics & Math (geek), getting my first professional position because I knew more Quantum Mechanics than anyone else (really geek). On the analysis team, assessing nuclear threat to the U.S. mainland from the then USSR.
At first I thought working hard and doing great work were good career goals. (Nope.) So I wondered …
How to get promoted to manager
In case you’ve wondered this too, you’ll be glad to know THE conversation in C-Suites across the land is the “How do we get more diversity in our senior and executive ranks?
They know that when their workforce reflects their customer-base, they have a much better chance of connecting with their customers.That means every corporation in America is competing for YOU. Are you ready?
I knew how to produce good work. What university hadn’t taught me was how to read my workplace so I could rise in my workplace. And I didn’t know how to set good career goals so I could move up.
While I liked analysis, I was NOT going to be stuck there for years, let alone decades. I was ready for something new — but what would a promotion look like? What would I do?, What skills and knowledge must I have to be “ready enough”?
Dr Weiss knew how to do it in academia, rising from Professor to Physics Department Chair. (The machine in the back is a really cool matter-antimatter annihilator he and my colleague Rene’ Holaday built. A study in the finer points of the universe.)
Do you sometimes wonder like I did? Maybe you’re asking yourself “What does it take to move up around here, anyway?” Or maybe you’d love a raise.
If you’re asking the same thing, I’d be happy to gift you a 20-min Career Insight Interview, just CLICK HERE to get started
I was somewhere between uncomfortable-and-mortified at the thought of being stuck in one position too long. But how to move out of a “doing” role and into a leading role? I needed to …
- Know the game being played (it might be different than you’d think..)
- Know how to play it good enough & get better
- Gain reliable allies & teammates
- Make fast, high-quality decisions, even when faced with ambiguity
- Get the best result possible
But how? Back to Mom … how she mentored me, showed me the steps, stayed with me every step of the way?
That’s what I didn’t have. My mom the homemaker and Avon lady didn’t know the corporate game. Nor my dad the Naval avionics mechanic (though it was fun to hang out in the garage with him, fetching tools & learning to fix stuff).
I established some mentor relationships with my professional engineering colleagues. The generations ahead of me were all men. The place made “Hidden Figures” seem like a diversity bonanza (ugh..).
NOTE To Self: When a potential mentor talks about anything but how to move up, that’s a hint they’re interested in you, but not aligned on your professional abilities or future. That can’t help you. Move on.
I have to admit that being new to it, I asked questions that seemed right to me, but weren’t.
I finally figured it out, but OUCH, had the years flown by. That cost me countless years of opportunity and worse, earning power. Earnings that would have compounded, had I learned early on what was needed and useful.
It breaks my heart is to see talented women* struggling like I did.
* Men too. These strategies work for anyone, and I totally admit that women are my focus.
I wanted to seize the day. Now you can — here’s how, Dorothy <– Schedule a call right here — it’s on me! https://calendly.com/yes-4/60min/
I appreciate you,
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Cheers to your next raise, position, promotion!
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